At Last!

🙌 My name change request has been granted.🙌

As of July 1, 2026, I am officially Karen Elizabeth Beary once again. 

(The legal document arrived yesterday.) Yes, you can still call me IsDihara.

🎶 Life is like a song. 🎶 

~ "At Last" by Etta James 

"Change but the name, and you are the subject of the story.”

Horace

Just Chicken In: 🐔 Silverudd Blue

 

Meet Chicken Boo the Silverudd Blue chicken. His breed proudly lays green eggs. 🥚  

I began tatting this 3D chicken on August 13, 2023, but put it aside to focus on life for awhile.  I am so pleased to share that he is completed and no longer languishing in the Land of To Do.  

Thanks upon thanks to Faerlic for hand-holding me through this creation AND Even More thanks to all the tatting friends who kept me motivated to finish him. So very grateful and positively delighted with the results!

Beginnings: A Spring Napkin and an Easter Chicken

Getting his comb:

And of course, the cartoon chicken popularized in the TV series, Animaniacs, to which my 'Boo' bears no resemblance, but from which my 'Boo' gets his name anyway. 😁

  Buck buck, Ba-cawk! - Chicken Boo

Handling Life Changes OR Transitions are Tricky

Since I have been quiet for too long, let me offer an update:

Tatting Friends and Family,

The past two years have been a wild ride. The lead-up to divorce proceedings was a stressful eight months. Then life took a hard left turn when my husband suddenly and very unexpectedly died on April 4, 2024.

While it admittedly doesn't sound like a lot of time, anyone who has navigated the pre-process of divorce will tell you the ups and downs can be dramatic.

Let me state for the record that I did not want to divorce. 

Todd Parent and I were getting through the legally-required waiting period (one year) before filing when life took that terrible, horrible, no good, very bad, Hard. Left. Turn.

I am not even joking when I say, it was 11 months before a cause of death and an autopsy was released.

Several unfathomable details emerged, only one of which I will share: Todd literally left Sapling/Twig/Banyon and I penniless. He withdrew the last $100 out of the bank account the same day his dead body was found. I would learn later that he had opened at least five other bank accounts, all of which had been depleted. So I couldn't "follow the money," as they say in movies, to get answers.

Transitions are Tricky

With huge amounts of help from family, both chosen and blood, I stumbled through the dissociative fugue and financial crisis of those early months. Unpacking the new reality of my life was a jumble of tears, fears, confusion (Who am I?), emotional distress, practical problems, and poor attempts to address the underlying trauma. So many folks jumped in to help - without hesitation - in the best ways they could. 

Outpourings of Support 

    The SCA and Beyond: It takes a village to raise a child. It took a village to save us. SO MANY citizens of the SCA (who I didn't even think remembered me) responded like family, as if we had only connected yesterday instead of decades ago. They opened their pocket books and their hearts to make sure that my son and I would not starve. How can I ever repay such kindness? There is only one way; to pay it forward. I promise you I will. I don't 'have enough words, but my heart is so full.

More to come. 

Gratitude heading into International Tatting Day (2024)

 

Tat Land is truly the best land in all the magical lands of lace! It has ALL the right people.  😉

Showing gratitude is always a good idea and tatting friends make it so easy to be grateful.  

This 2024 post never made it farther than the above two thoughts, so I publish them now, with one sad addition:

Today, September 27, 2025, I wandered back into Tatland's lovely blogosphere and discovered that CrazyMom had suffered the tragic death of her middle child back in July. She referred to him as Curly on her blog. I am so, so sorry I didn't find out about this sooner.

Please accept my grossly belated condolences, CrazyMom! Such a deeply mourned loss will go through many ebbs and flows before the grip loosens. I hope you are experiencing the loosening grip.

There Really is No Place Like Home

 

Today my copy of Martha Ess' new tatting book arrived!  It is titled, Whimsical Tatting, and it is a delightful compilation of characters from The Wizard of Oz, dragons, an alien, an adorable puppy, and an equally adorable kitten.

Whimsical Tatting Patterns
by Martha Ess

I've said it before and I will say it again, Martha's patterns are 110% pure pleasure to tat. Clear instructions, gorgeous photos and diagrams - what's not to love?

A heart is not judged by how much you love; but by how much you are loved by others. – The Wizard of Oz

Dark Days on the Horizon 

My husband has asked for a divorce. My world has been thrown into chaos and uncertainty. Trying to find a lawyer. Beginning a job search after 16 years as a Stay-at-Home-Mom. 

The only things that are certain for me are:

1. Navigating divorce proceedings will not be easy. 
2. There will be many days ahead that outright SUCK. 
3. I need to get everything Brody and I are entitled to/due for as long as possible to provide for Brody

I may not be able to blog for awhile. But I will try to keep tatting (I am officially adding tatting to the category of SELF CARE.  We all know what good therapy tatting is!)

Beginnings: a Spring Napkin and an Easter Chicken

Renulek Spring 2021

   During the pandemic I resolved to tat patterns that I have "loved from afar" -- designs lovingly purchased but left to languish in the Land of To Do. It was time to take the plunge and work on my tatting list even if only by one or two To Dos. What better choice than a Spring Napkin?

Taking the Plunge!

   Renulek's patterns are perfection and while other tatters around the world were creating the 2023 Spring Napkin, I "took the plunge" to tat Spring Napkin 2021 (pattern sold on Etsy.com). For round one I chose the warm yellows of Lizbeth 20 #180 Honey Drizzle. Marilee Rockley's hand-dyed colorway Roses is an elegant compliment for round two.

Round one and the start of round two

  

   Those who have attended zoom meetings for Tollway Tatters this year have witnessed the beginnings of my journey through this gorgeous pattern. Here is a snapshot of rounds 1 and 2 complete:

Today I dove into round 3 with Lizbeth 20 #676 Leaf Green Dark.  It is a straightforward, relaxing tat. Very soothing, with no direction changes!

   I am taking the time to enjoy this process and (fingers crossed) building the stamina to keep going once the work gets significantly larger.  Stay tuned!

 

   Just Chicken In: 🐔

   Spring Cleaning project #2 is a 3D Easter Chicken from this Polish magazine: 

 Issue No. 4 Moje Robotki 2008

         The pattern calls for size 10 thread and I chose a Lizbeth Limited Edition color for the body: Lizbeth 10 #9100 Arctic Evening.  It approximates the colors of a Swedish Isbar chicken.

Swedish Isbar Chicken

3D Easter Chicken - humble beginnings

head and neck

       The stitch marker indicates the first ring of each new round.  It helps me to climb out with a split ring at the right spot.

Completing round 6 tail section

   The complete pattern is only seven rounds, so I am almost done with the body. I decided to tat an additional section of tail feathers in a coordinating color for visual interest. Then round 7, and the comb, eyes, beak and wattle. Et voila! My chickie will be complete. Stay tuned!

Aliens in Tat Land: A Closer Look

   This past January, Jane Eborall hosted her annual Tat It And See adventure. She works hard to design, diagram, and deliver an original tatting pattern in bite-size pieces for Tat Land to enjoy.  It is two weeks of creative battery-charging, energy-boosting, doldrums-banishing fun!   

   You can never tell where Jane will take you. Every stage of her game is fun, since it fuels my  imagination to run wild with crazy guesses. (I always try to work in a camel guess early on.) 

   Each new clue jump-starts my creative brain cells and helps me to see design possibilities. This year she had me guessing right up until the very end.

   Without further adieu, I present to you the first of my insinuation of aliens! Chief Blue Meanie from Outer Space!  He is tatted with Lizbeth thread, size 20, #707 – Sky Blue Dark. 

   You know that bittersweet feeling when you get to the end of a very good book? The end of T.I.A.S. each year is a bit like that. It is affecting, conquering new techniques; I have loved the camaraderie; I am delighted by the aliens, and yes, I am sad it's over for 2023. 

I will have alien #2, #3 and #4 to reveal in future posts.  Stay tuned, tatting friends!

“Everyone’s quick to blame the alien.” ~ Aeschylus